Relationships Really DO Take Work!
The truth is that even the most solid relationships take time and effort to be successful. Relationships require care and nurturing to thrive, and when one or both partners stop prioritizing this, it’s easy to drift apart without even realizing it. This often times leads to disconnection that then leads to a breakdown in communication, hurt feelings, loneliness, and lack of emotional safety and trust.
Does this mean your relationship is doomed? Absolutely not.
Moving from Disconnection to Connection
Whether pertaining to trust issues, infidelity, lack of intimacy, or ambivalence around staying or leaving a partner, all relationships go through periods that are challenging. Sometimes it may feel like you can’t communicate with your partner without something getting lost in translation, which leads to arguments or hurt feelings. It can feel stressful and lonely when one of the most important relationships of your life is disconnected. In couples therapy, we will work as a unit to identify what brought on a disconnect in the relationship, use exercises to better communicate and find and conflict resolution, increase intimacy, and replace negative patterns with positive ones.
When working with couples, I utilize techniques and exercises from both the Gottman method and Emotion-Focused therapy (EFT). Interventions practiced in sessions will address distress in the relationship, identify ways to increase closeness and intimacy, build a better emotional connection, and allow both individuals to better understand each other’s emotional responses. The goal in couples therapy will be to create new patterns of interacting that is respectful of each person’s needs and wants.